When I'm organized and plan ahead, life seems to flow smoothly. I stay on top of the chores, I get something out for dinner every morning to thaw, we get dressed and leave the house by 8 or 9 in the morning, and don't have to stop for fast-food for lunch. The kids fall asleep quickly, nap for 3 hours and all is right with the world. Unfortunately, this isn't always the case. I spend too much time on the computer while the kids watch cartoons and lose track of time. Or I constantly check my phone throughout the day, while the kids run amuck in the house, digging out all of their toys and causing chaos that soon overwhelms me and puts me in "shut down" mode.
I have this uncanny ability to ignore problems or troubles until they blow over or go away. Call it a coping mechanism left over from my childhood. Just pretend nothing is wrong until it's not wrong anymore. Time heals a lot of things. Sometimes this ability to delay gratification helps achieve a goal, like when you're trying to save money for something. But in your home and relationships it's better to address things right away, before they become overwhelming.
What are 5 Manageable ways you can be Proactive with kids?
Pay attention to patterns and routines.
Kids are creatures of habit. If you find yourself beating your head against a wall for the same reason over and over, take a minute to breathe and come up with a solution. For example, I am not a morning person. After I put in my contacts, I need coffee. The kids are the same way about chocolate milk. But, they stand there and beg for it the entire time I'm trying to make it and get the coffee running. It's like when you waitress and you're already planning to bring the biscuits out first, but the guests keep asking for them before you can get to it. Solution: Set up the coffee pot and make the chocolate milk before you go to bed. Once your child is old enough to open the refrigerator he will love getting it himself. If you get up at the same time everyday, you can even program the coffee to be ready when you come downstairs instead of having to push the button and wait.
Do a full load of laundry every day.
I know, you're laughing and thinking yeah right. But try it. Take the time to focus on a load of laundry and how much time it actually takes to complete from start to finish. Time how long the folding and putting away step takes with just one load. In comparison to an entire room full, it seems surprisingly short. Trying to get out the door and no one can get dressed because you can't find anything clean in the baskets that fit the kids, or yourself? That takes so much more time and causes so much more stress than just having the laundry where you need it. Involve the kids once they are old enough (2-3 years) to know where certain things like socks, underwear, and pajamas go. In my house, those are things that go in drawers but don't stay folded, so I don't get upset if they are put away a little haphazardly.